St. Louis Counseling Blog

High School All Over Again? 4 Tips for Dealing with Adult Cliques

Posted by on Apr 5, 2016 in change inc, cliques, happiness, parents, relationships, St. Louis Counseling | Comments Off on High School All Over Again? 4 Tips for Dealing with Adult Cliques

High School All Over Again?  4 Tips for Dealing with Adult Cliques

I reached the apex of my childhood popularity in eighth grade, having rotated into the “most sought after guy” slot relatively frequently to that point with a handful of two or three others.

Then something happened.

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How to Say You’re Sorry

Posted by on Mar 3, 2016 in apologizing, happiness, relationships, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace | Comments Off on How to Say You’re Sorry

How to Say You’re Sorry

Most of us having trouble saying we’re sorry. If some of our nation’s politicians (or the way we react to them) are any indication, apologizing is practically un-American. It runs against the grain of a people who’ve prided themselves on being first place at everything (even though we’re not – pride makes you blind that way).

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Happy New Year — I Bought You Some Therapy!

Posted by on Jan 15, 2016 in change inc, counseling, millennials, parents, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace | Comments Off on Happy New Year — I Bought You Some Therapy!

Happy New Year — I Bought You Some Therapy!

Every year, phone calls pour in to Change, Inc. Nashville & St. Louis inquiring about referring some family member or loved one. You know – wayward children, beloved siblings, aging parents, etc. Many times, the callers are so concerned they’re considering paying for a beneficiary’s therapy themselves. In principle, gifting counseling services to a loved one is a sound proposition, but before you go blindly referring, here are few things to consider.

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5 Tips for New Year’s Success

Posted by on Jan 5, 2016 in change, new year, resolutions, tips for success | Comments Off on 5 Tips for New Year’s Success

5 Tips for New Year’s Success

I love the new year.

I feel fresh and alive and ready to tackle anything that comes my way.

And while this is SUPER COMMON (I know I’m not alone here), the flip side of feeling this way is that I often try to do too much…then end up doing nothing.

I’ve worked on this for the past few years and here are 5 tips drawn from how I’m approaching things this year.

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Make Eggnog, Not Expectations

Posted by on Dec 17, 2015 in change inc, christmas, counseling, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling | Comments Off on Make Eggnog, Not Expectations

Make Eggnog, Not Expectations

Whether we’re celebrating Advent, Hanukah, Kwanzaa, the arrival of Saint Nick, or good old-fashioned family-togetherness, it’s only natural that we look forward to this time of year with hope and eagerness in our hearts.

But sometimes all of that hope and eagerness can begin to look an awful lot like expectations. You know, the kind that inevitably lead to disappointment, frustration, or sadness. They seem especially potent around the holidays.

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5 Reasons for St. Louis Holistic Health Coaching

Posted by on Sep 22, 2015 in lindsay sihilling, st. louis health coach, st. louis health coaching, why health coaching | Comments Off on 5 Reasons for St. Louis Holistic Health Coaching

5 Reasons for St. Louis Holistic Health Coaching

I became a health coach because I desperately needed one.

I was sick. I woke up one morning in the spring of 2010 and didn’t feel quite right. I was fatigued, foggy headed, and exhausted. Days later, I was diagnosed with a virus so severe that I was forced to quit my job, move home, and wait it out. But the symptoms never quite went away and for the next five years I struggled through a daily “hangover” of sluggish fatigue, brain fog and muscle pain.

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If You Want to Sing, Sing Out

Posted by on Aug 10, 2015 in Carl Rogers, counseling, dr. sarah bollinger, mindfulness, process | Comments Off on If You Want to Sing, Sing Out

If You Want to Sing, Sing Out

The world teaches us to be all kinds of things, but very rarely are we taught how to be ourselves. We are taught to be on time. We are taught to be moral. We are taught to be consumers. We are taught to be professional, attentive, apologetic, submissive, but by God whatever you do, don’t be you!  I learned as a very young girl in a very conservative church how to distrust my instincts, how to “ward off the flesh”, how to double back on myself, how to second guess my gut…this was exhausting and stifling, not to mention...

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Should I Meet With a Therapist That is Younger than Me?

Posted by on Jul 24, 2015 in age issues, age of therapist, counseling, younger therapists | Comments Off on Should I Meet With a Therapist That is Younger than Me?

Should I Meet With a Therapist That is Younger than Me?

At Change, Inc. St. Louis Counseling & Psychiatry, we’ve gone of out our way to build a superior team of mental health experts. One of the things you may notice about our team is that we are…how do you say it? Fresh-faced? Sprightly? Something like that. This too is a deliberate hiring strategy on my part as the founder and clinical director of Change, Inc. at-large and a 13-year veteran of the mental health industry.

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A Therapist’s Tribute to Robin Williams

Posted by on Jul 17, 2015 in counseling, grief, robin williams, St. Louis Counseling | Comments Off on A Therapist’s Tribute to Robin Williams

A Therapist’s Tribute to Robin Williams

Musical artist Cee-Lo Green recently released a moving tribute to Robin Williams and a number of other famous comedians and actors who have shaped popular culture over the last 20-30 years. His song, aptly titled, Robin Williams, highlights the notion that life is sometimes tragic, and that humor can be a very effective medicine to help us “laugh the pain away.”

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Helping Someone Through Trauma: Do’s and Don’ts

Posted by on Jul 7, 2015 in abby howard, counseling, PTSD, St. Louis Counseling, Trauma | Comments Off on Helping Someone Through Trauma: Do’s and Don’ts

Helping Someone Through Trauma: Do’s and Don’ts

In January of 2012, a man jumped into the back of my best friend’s car and put a gun to my head.

We’d just left a work event and I had parked on a dark side street. My friend had offered to drive me to my car so I’d “be safe,” but before I could get out of her car we were robbed at gunpoint.

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