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Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Thaier

Posted by on Nov 8, 2017 in christina thaier, getting to know change inc | Comments Off on Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Thaier

Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Thaier

At Change, Inc., we strive to create an environment which facilitates non-judgmental, down-to-earth counseling in South City, St. Louis.  Naturally, that would amount to clients having greater emotional access to us, not just as counselors, but as humans, because we believe it is precisely that human connection which ultimately makes or breaks counseling. In light of that, every so often recently we’ve been asking our therapists, “What do you love about working with people?”  Today, we hear from counselor, Christina Thaier.  (SIDE NOTE:...

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Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Warden

Posted by on Sep 6, 2017 in change inc, christina warden, counseling, getting to know change inc, St. Louis Counseling | Comments Off on Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Warden

Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Warden

As we’ve mentioned previously, counselors are often portrayed in films and on television as distant and aloof, or even cold and sterile — the disapproving old man stroking his bear and saying little more than, “Hmmmmm….” while clients pour their hearts out.  On the other hand, they are also portrayed as bumbling and naive, wanting to be helpful but only loosely oriented to reality themselves, sort of like the counselor version of Barney Fife or Homer Simpson. Neither of these is accurate.  At Change, Inc., we...

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Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Zach Polk

Posted by on Aug 28, 2017 in change inc, getting to know change inc, St. Louis Counseling, zach polk | Comments Off on Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Zach Polk

Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Zach Polk

Popular culture (films, movies, books, etc.) tends to portray counselors in one of two ways.  On one hand, counselors are often portrayed as somewhat mysterious, enigmatic figures who reveal little of themselves to their clients, generally hiding behind horned-rimmed glasses and an air of polish and poise that creates cool distance.  They’re like Zen masters in what they seem to know about clients without having to ask and in their ability to seamlessly reveal the wisdom of the ages.  On the other hand, counselors may be portrayed as...

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On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Posted by on Aug 8, 2017 in counseling, jeffrey kottler, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, tips for success, what to expect in counseling | Comments Off on On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Most clients are initially nervous about counseling.  Some even report that they still feel lost mid-way through.  And frankly, why wouldn’t you?  Counseling is a somewhat mysterious process both in its nature, and in the notion that there simply isn’t a lot written for clients about what they should expect.   Reinforcing that notion in his book, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler remarks the following, in the section entitled, “On Being a Client: How to Get the Most from Therapy”: “Let’s acknowledge at the outset that...

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Lessons from Alice in Wonderland: We’re All Mad Here!!!

Posted by on Jul 31, 2017 in acceptance, alice in wonderland, embracing current station, laura brackett, radical acceptance, self-acceptance, St. Louis Counseling | Comments Off on Lessons from Alice in Wonderland: We’re All Mad Here!!!

Lessons from Alice in Wonderland: We’re All Mad Here!!!

One of the more common questions I’m asked in therapy is, “Am I crazy?!!”  My clients tend to wonder how they compare to all those “normal” people out there. This question calls to mind Alice in Lewis Carroll’s 1865 classic, Alice in Wonderland (or at least the 1951 Disney cartoon version).  Not long after falling down the rabbit hole, Alice finds herself lamenting the nonsense of Wonderland to the Cheshire Cat, who matter-of-factly responds, “We’re all mad here. I’m mad. You’re...

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Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

Posted by on Nov 29, 2016 in jeffrey kottler, richard rohr, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, therapist's inner life, vulnerability | Comments Off on Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

By definition, the work therapists do requires our clients to be vulnerable in ways that they probably never experience otherwise in their lives — most clients know this well!  What we are all perhaps less familiar with is the ways in which our role requires vulnerability of the therapist as well. In his quintessential work, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler reports that some researchers have wondered whether “therapists are masochists and gluttons for punishment. What else could possibly explain our willingness to spend...

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Caring For Yourself Through Grief: 7 Tips

Posted by on Oct 6, 2016 in counseling, grief, St. Louis Counseling, thriveworks | Comments Off on Caring For Yourself Through Grief: 7 Tips

Caring For Yourself Through Grief: 7 Tips

When we suffer a loss, all of a sudden a million things demand our attention: making arrangements, handling business, making sure the children are ok and dealing with our own feelings of grief and loss. It’s easy during these stressful times to forget to take care of ourselves. We may think we’re doing fine because we are still getting through the day. Suffering a loss is one of the most emotionally intense experiences we will ever face. Grief affects us emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally and socially. Your strength will be called...

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Therapists Get Depressed Too?

Posted by on Sep 21, 2016 in befriending pain, change, change inc, counseling, depression, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, therapist's inner life | Comments Off on Therapists Get Depressed Too?

Therapists Get Depressed Too?

I’ve been a little depressed lately.
Wait…did I say that out loud?
Doesn’t matter. It’s true either way. That’s right. I’m a therapist, and I’ve been depressed lately. It’s actually remarkable how predictable this sort of thing is for me.

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Change, Inc. in the News!

Posted by on Jul 14, 2016 in change inc, counseling, online behavior, relationships, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, social media | Comments Off on Change, Inc. in the News!

Change, Inc. in the News!

Did you see us in the St. Louis Post-Dispatch this week?  We were there!  Change, Inc. Founder and Clinical and Managing Director, Ryan Thomas Neace, was featured in an article discussing the impact of online behavior in relationships!  Click here to...

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Positive Thinking or Plain Ol’ Denial?

Posted by on Jun 13, 2016 in change, change inc, counseling, denial, expectations, positive thinking, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, thinking positively, tips for success | Comments Off on Positive Thinking or Plain Ol’ Denial?

Positive Thinking or Plain Ol’ Denial?

Thinking positively about the people in our lives acknowledges that they have flaws and faults which may have an impact on us, and allows us to make informed decisions about how to interact while still choosing to think of them positively. We do this by learning to expect nothing more than what they are capable of, and allowing ourselves the privilege of feeling warmly toward them about that helpful portion, however small it may be. There is no need for anger or frustration about the rest — we no longer expect it of them and trust them...

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