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On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Posted by on Aug 8, 2017 in counseling, jeffrey kottler, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, tips for success, what to expect in counseling | Comments Off on On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Most clients are initially nervous about counseling.  Some even report that they still feel lost mid-way through.  And frankly, why wouldn’t you?  Counseling is a somewhat mysterious process both in its nature, and in the notion that there simply isn’t a lot written for clients about what they should expect.   Reinforcing that notion in his book, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler remarks the following, in the section entitled, “On Being a Client: How to Get the Most from Therapy”: “Let’s acknowledge at the outset that [counseling] is a pretty strange enterprise. You sit...

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Positive Thinking or Plain Ol’ Denial?

Posted by on Jun 13, 2016 in change, change inc, counseling, denial, expectations, positive thinking, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, thinking positively, tips for success | Comments Off on Positive Thinking or Plain Ol’ Denial?

Positive Thinking or Plain Ol’ Denial?

Thinking positively about the people in our lives acknowledges that they have flaws and faults which may have an impact on us, and allows us to make informed decisions about how to interact while still choosing to think of them positively. We do this by learning to expect nothing more than what they are capable of, and allowing ourselves the privilege of feeling warmly toward them about that helpful portion, however small it may be. There is no need for anger or frustration about the rest — we no longer expect it of them and trust them to be who they are (even if that means we...

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5 Tips for New Year’s Success

Posted by on Jan 5, 2016 in change, new year, resolutions, tips for success | Comments Off on 5 Tips for New Year’s Success

5 Tips for New Year’s Success

I love the new year.

I feel fresh and alive and ready to tackle anything that comes my way.

And while this is SUPER COMMON (I know I’m not alone here), the flip side of feeling this way is that I often try to do too much…then end up doing nothing.

I’ve worked on this for the past few years and here are 5 tips drawn from how I’m approaching things this year.

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