Ryan Thomas Neace

On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Posted by on Aug 8, 2017 in counseling, jeffrey kottler, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, tips for success, what to expect in counseling | Comments Off on On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Most clients are initially nervous about counseling.  Some even report that they still feel lost mid-way through.  And frankly, why wouldn’t you?  Counseling is a somewhat mysterious process both in its nature, and in the notion that there simply isn’t a lot written for clients about what they should expect.   Reinforcing that notion in his book, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler remarks the following, in the section entitled, “On Being a Client: How to Get the Most from Therapy”: “Let’s acknowledge at the outset that [counseling] is a pretty strange enterprise. You sit...

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Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

Posted by on Nov 29, 2016 in jeffrey kottler, richard rohr, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, therapist's inner life, vulnerability | Comments Off on Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

By definition, the work therapists do requires our clients to be vulnerable in ways that they probably never experience otherwise in their lives — most clients know this well!  What we are all perhaps less familiar with is the ways in which our role requires vulnerability of the therapist as well. In his quintessential work, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler reports that some researchers have wondered whether “therapists are masochists and gluttons for punishment. What else could possibly explain our willingness to spend so much time exploring the darkest recesses of...

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Therapists Get Depressed Too?

Posted by on Sep 21, 2016 in befriending pain, change, change inc, counseling, depression, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, therapist's inner life | Comments Off on Therapists Get Depressed Too?

Therapists Get Depressed Too?

I’ve been a little depressed lately.
Wait…did I say that out loud?
Doesn’t matter. It’s true either way. That’s right. I’m a therapist, and I’ve been depressed lately. It’s actually remarkable how predictable this sort of thing is for me.

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Change, Inc. in the News!

Posted by on Jul 14, 2016 in change inc, counseling, online behavior, relationships, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, social media | Comments Off on Change, Inc. in the News!

Change, Inc. in the News!

Did you see us in the St. Louis Post-Dispatch this week?  We were there!  Change, Inc. Founder and Clinical and Managing Director, Ryan Thomas Neace, was featured in an article discussing the impact of online behavior in relationships!  Click here to read!

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Positive Thinking or Plain Ol’ Denial?

Posted by on Jun 13, 2016 in change, change inc, counseling, denial, expectations, positive thinking, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, thinking positively, tips for success | Comments Off on Positive Thinking or Plain Ol’ Denial?

Positive Thinking or Plain Ol’ Denial?

Thinking positively about the people in our lives acknowledges that they have flaws and faults which may have an impact on us, and allows us to make informed decisions about how to interact while still choosing to think of them positively. We do this by learning to expect nothing more than what they are capable of, and allowing ourselves the privilege of feeling warmly toward them about that helpful portion, however small it may be. There is no need for anger or frustration about the rest — we no longer expect it of them and trust them to be who they are (even if that means we...

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How to Say You’re Sorry

Posted by on Mar 3, 2016 in apologizing, happiness, relationships, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace | Comments Off on How to Say You’re Sorry

How to Say You’re Sorry

Most of us having trouble saying we’re sorry. If some of our nation’s politicians (or the way we react to them) are any indication, apologizing is practically un-American. It runs against the grain of a people who’ve prided themselves on being first place at everything (even though we’re not – pride makes you blind that way).

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