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On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Posted by on Aug 8, 2017 in counseling, jeffrey kottler, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, tips for success, what to expect in counseling | Comments Off on On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Most clients are initially nervous about counseling.  Some even report that they still feel lost mid-way through.  And frankly, why wouldn’t you?  Counseling is a somewhat mysterious process both in its nature, and in the notion that there simply isn’t a lot written for clients about what they should expect.   Reinforcing that notion in his book, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler remarks the following, in the section entitled, “On Being a Client: How to Get the Most from Therapy”: “Let’s acknowledge at the outset that [counseling] is a pretty strange enterprise. You sit...

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Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

Posted by on Nov 29, 2016 in jeffrey kottler, richard rohr, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, therapist's inner life, vulnerability | Comments Off on Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

By definition, the work therapists do requires our clients to be vulnerable in ways that they probably never experience otherwise in their lives — most clients know this well!  What we are all perhaps less familiar with is the ways in which our role requires vulnerability of the therapist as well. In his quintessential work, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler reports that some researchers have wondered whether “therapists are masochists and gluttons for punishment. What else could possibly explain our willingness to spend so much time exploring the darkest recesses of...

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