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Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Warden

Posted by on Sep 6, 2017 in change inc, christina warden, counseling, getting to know change inc, St. Louis Counseling | Comments Off on Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Warden

Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Warden

As we’ve mentioned previously, counselors are often portrayed in films and on television as distant and aloof, or even cold and sterile — the disapproving old man stroking his bear and saying little more than, “Hmmmmm….” while clients pour their hearts out.  On the other hand, they are also portrayed as bumbling and naive, wanting to be helpful but only loosely oriented to reality themselves, sort of like the counselor version of Barney Fife or Homer Simpson. Neither of these is accurate.  At Change, Inc., we strive to create an environment which...

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Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Zach Polk

Posted by on Aug 28, 2017 in change inc, getting to know change inc, St. Louis Counseling, zach polk | Comments Off on Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Zach Polk

Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Zach Polk

Popular culture (films, movies, books, etc.) tends to portray counselors in one of two ways.  On one hand, counselors are often portrayed as somewhat mysterious, enigmatic figures who reveal little of themselves to their clients, generally hiding behind horned-rimmed glasses and an air of polish and poise that creates cool distance.  They’re like Zen masters in what they seem to know about clients without having to ask and in their ability to seamlessly reveal the wisdom of the ages.  On the other hand, counselors may be portrayed as good-in-theory but practically good-for-nothing...

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On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Posted by on Aug 8, 2017 in counseling, jeffrey kottler, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, tips for success, what to expect in counseling | Comments Off on On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Most clients are initially nervous about counseling.  Some even report that they still feel lost mid-way through.  And frankly, why wouldn’t you?  Counseling is a somewhat mysterious process both in its nature, and in the notion that there simply isn’t a lot written for clients about what they should expect.   Reinforcing that notion in his book, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler remarks the following, in the section entitled, “On Being a Client: How to Get the Most from Therapy”: “Let’s acknowledge at the outset that [counseling] is a pretty strange enterprise. You sit...

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Lessons from Alice in Wonderland: We’re All Mad Here!!!

Posted by on Jul 31, 2017 in acceptance, alice in wonderland, embracing current station, laura brackett, radical acceptance, self-acceptance, St. Louis Counseling | Comments Off on Lessons from Alice in Wonderland: We’re All Mad Here!!!

Lessons from Alice in Wonderland: We’re All Mad Here!!!

One of the more common questions I’m asked in therapy is, “Am I crazy?!!”  My clients tend to wonder how they compare to all those “normal” people out there. This question calls to mind Alice in Lewis Carroll’s 1865 classic, Alice in Wonderland (or at least the 1951 Disney cartoon version).  Not long after falling down the rabbit hole, Alice finds herself lamenting the nonsense of Wonderland to the Cheshire Cat, who matter-of-factly responds, “We’re all mad here. I’m mad. You’re mad.” Alice initially resists this sentiment,...

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Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

Posted by on Nov 29, 2016 in jeffrey kottler, richard rohr, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, therapist's inner life, vulnerability | Comments Off on Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

Vulnerability: The Key to Growth?

By definition, the work therapists do requires our clients to be vulnerable in ways that they probably never experience otherwise in their lives — most clients know this well!  What we are all perhaps less familiar with is the ways in which our role requires vulnerability of the therapist as well. In his quintessential work, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler reports that some researchers have wondered whether “therapists are masochists and gluttons for punishment. What else could possibly explain our willingness to spend so much time exploring the darkest recesses of...

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