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A Reflection for the 2018 New Year

Posted by on Jan 9, 2018 in forward-facing 90, new year, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling | Comments Off on A Reflection for the 2018 New Year

A Reflection for the 2018 New Year

I have this concept I’ve been working with for the past 12-18 months which I’ve named, “The Forward-Facing 90 (FF90)” — it’s my way of saying that about 90% of who I am is genuinely visible to literally everyone most of the time. 90.01-95% is visible only to those in my innermost concentric circles — a few key mentors and close friends/confidants/colleagues. 95.01-98% is reserved for my wife and I, and age-appropriately and at my discretion, my children. And then 98.01-100% is just for me (and G_d as I mis/understand G_d). In discovering that this is...

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Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Thaier

Posted by on Nov 8, 2017 in christina thaier, getting to know change inc | Comments Off on Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Thaier

Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Christina Thaier

At Change, Inc., we strive to create an environment which facilitates non-judgmental, down-to-earth counseling in South City, St. Louis.  Naturally, that would amount to clients having greater emotional access to us, not just as counselors, but as humans, because we believe it is precisely that human connection which ultimately makes or breaks counseling. In light of that, every so often recently we’ve been asking our therapists, “What do you love about working with people?”  Today, we hear from counselor, Christina Thaier.  (SIDE NOTE: Enjoy the “off-duty” photo!) “My favorite...

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Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Zach Polk

Posted by on Aug 28, 2017 in change inc, getting to know change inc, St. Louis Counseling, zach polk | Comments Off on Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Zach Polk

Getting to Know Change, Inc.: Counselor Zach Polk

Popular culture (films, movies, books, etc.) tends to portray counselors in one of two ways.  On one hand, counselors are often portrayed as somewhat mysterious, enigmatic figures who reveal little of themselves to their clients, generally hiding behind horned-rimmed glasses and an air of polish and poise that creates cool distance.  They’re like Zen masters in what they seem to know about clients without having to ask and in their ability to seamlessly reveal the wisdom of the ages.  On the other hand, counselors may be portrayed as good-in-theory but practically good-for-nothing...

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On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Posted by on Aug 8, 2017 in counseling, jeffrey kottler, ryan neace, Ryan Thomas Neace, St. Louis Counseling, tips for success, what to expect in counseling | Comments Off on On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

On Being a Client: Guideposts for a Smooth Counseling Experience

Most clients are initially nervous about counseling.  Some even report that they still feel lost mid-way through.  And frankly, why wouldn’t you?  Counseling is a somewhat mysterious process both in its nature, and in the notion that there simply isn’t a lot written for clients about what they should expect.   Reinforcing that notion in his book, On Being a Therapist, Dr. Jeffrey Kottler remarks the following, in the section entitled, “On Being a Client: How to Get the Most from Therapy”: “Let’s acknowledge at the outset that [counseling] is a pretty strange enterprise. You sit...

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Lessons from Alice in Wonderland: We’re All Mad Here!!!

Posted by on Jul 31, 2017 in acceptance, alice in wonderland, embracing current station, laura brackett, radical acceptance, self-acceptance, St. Louis Counseling | Comments Off on Lessons from Alice in Wonderland: We’re All Mad Here!!!

Lessons from Alice in Wonderland: We’re All Mad Here!!!

One of the more common questions I’m asked in therapy is, “Am I crazy?!!”  My clients tend to wonder how they compare to all those “normal” people out there. This question calls to mind Alice in Lewis Carroll’s 1865 classic, Alice in Wonderland (or at least the 1951 Disney cartoon version).  Not long after falling down the rabbit hole, Alice finds herself lamenting the nonsense of Wonderland to the Cheshire Cat, who matter-of-factly responds, “We’re all mad here. I’m mad. You’re mad.” Alice initially resists this sentiment,...

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